Divorce and dating for men only
They rush into new relationships -- and often into new marriages -- within the first year.
"That's no doubt the biggest mistake," says Buser, who is based in Houston.
Even if your husband has carried on numerous affairs during your marriage, he will not think that you are justified in seeing someone new at this time.
All he will focus on is that he has been wronged and will want to seek justice anyway he can.
With those basics in mind, here are the five seemingly harmless mistakes most men make during the ugly process.
"Acknowledge that it is not the right time for that." After a divorce, it's easy for guys to let themselves become isolated, especially if the ex gets custody of the kids. It can worsen feelings of depression, guilt, and loneliness, a potentially dangerous mix.
Strategic reasons not to date before divorce Emotions are raw during a divorce.
When you start seeing someone else, it is like rubbing salt into your husband's wounds.
They tend to appear brave through the storms in life.
Maybe because they do not have the clarity to understand their feelings or they see no importance in making a big deal out of it, man has been known to internalise his grief since birth.
(That's 50% for the mathematically challenged.) But there are bigger things right now than worrying about the stigma of being known as the “divorced guy”; men also have to contend with court battles and, in some cases, it ain’t pretty.